AURELIUS'S WISDOM

*Look beneeth the surface; never let a thing's intrinsic quality or worth escape you.

*To refrain from imitation is the best revenge.

*Because a thing is difficult for you, do not therefore suppose it to beyond mortal power. On the contrary, if anything is possible and proper for men to do, assume that it must fall within your own capacity.

*When an opponent in the gymnasium gashes us with his nails or bruises our head in a collision, we do not protest or take offence, and we do not suspect him ever afterwards of malicious intent. However, we regard him with a wary eye; not in enmity or suspicion, yet good temperedly keeping our distance. So let it be, too, at other times in life; let us agree to overlook a great many things in those who are, as it were, our fellow-contestants. A simple avoidance, as I have said, is always open to us, without either suspicion or ill-will.

*If anyone can show me, and prove to be, that I am wrong in thought and deed, I will gladly change. I seek the truth which never yet hurt anybody. It is only persistence in self delusion and ignorance which does harm.

KNOTS : Male and Female Arguments.

Jill : I'm upset you are upset.
Jack: I'm not upset.
Jill  : I'm upset that you are not upset that I'm upset you are not.
Jack :I'm upset that you are upset that I'm not upset that you're upset that I'm upset, when I'm not.


Jill : You put me in the wrong.
Jack: I am not putting you in the wrong
Jill : You put me in the wrong  for thinking you put me in the wrong.
Jack : Forgive me.
Jill : No
Jack: I'll never forgive you for not forgiving me.

                                                                               Dr.Laing

MIRROR

When a baby looks at it's mother's face, the face is the baby's first mirror. It is in that face that one sees oneself reflected. The image one develops of one's own face is built up in very complex ways . Once it is established, I suppose many people feel they are somewhere or other behind a face which they can't see because they are on the side of it, but if they could see, if they could look into a mirror, or if they could get around in their imagination from behind or look at themselves from outside then they see their   " FACE"
                                                                                         Dr.Winnicot.

CHARACTER ARMOR

A character's entire mental apparetus- his mode of being in the world - is shaped in part by his defensive strategy, by his armoring of character.
Character armor is the face the self turns to the world. On it are etched the twists and turns the defenses demand in their struggle to avoid what is unpleasant .  
By reading character the defensive structure is revealed, like the skeleton of a cadaver under the anatomist's dissecting knife.That structure maps the special condors of one's experience.
Character armor really refers to the whole life style that a person assumes, in order to live and act with a certain security. We all have some, because we all need to organize our personality. This organisation is a process whereby something have to be valued more than others, some acts have to be permitted, others forbidden, some lines of conduuct have to be closed, some kinds of thoughts can be entertained, others are taboo, and so on. Each person literally closes off his world, fences himself around in the very process of his growth and organization.

If everybody has some character armor, everyone is also somewhat of a fetishist. If you are obliged to close yourself to the multiplicity of things, it follows that you will focus somewhat on the restrained area of things; and, if you cannot freely value everything, nor freely weight all things, then you must give disproportionate weight to some things which do not deserve this weight. 
You artificially inflate a small area of the world, and give it a higher value in the horizon of your perception and action. And you do this because it represents an area that you can firmly hold on to, that you skillfully manipulate, that you can use easily to justify yourself- your actions, your sense of self, your option in the world.

TODAY IS YOUR DAY

* Today Is Going To Be A Great Day So I Am Not Going To Be In A Bad Mood.
* Today I Am Going To Be Fearless, Patient, And Kind.
* A Smile Is A Priceless Thing So I Am Going To Smile A Lot Today.
* I Can Handle More Than I Think I Can Because I Believe In Myself And My Ability To Succeed In Whatever I Do.
* Things Do Not Get Better By Worrying About Them So I Look For The Next Best Way To A Positive Action.
* There Is Always Something To Be Happy About So I Will Not Be Irritated Easily And My Words Reveal My Refinement.
* I Am Going To Make Someone Happy Today And My Attitude Is More Important Than My Intelligence.
* It Is Not Good To Be Down. I Let Positive Thinking Guide My Intelligence.
* I Can Be Satisfied If I Try To Do My Best.
* Today I Am Poised, Prepared, Persuasive, Positive, Powerful, Effective, Energetic,    Enthusiastic,  Enjoyable, Imaginative, Informative, Inspirational, Impressive, Zestful And Zinc.

Life is Great & make the most of it by Thinking Big.

READ THIS EVERYDAY TO PEP YOU UP.

OFFICE ISSUES

Some of the common reason for lack of development are as follows- Your manager is biased and does not want to promote you, your company is not focused on hard working employees, your effort always go unnoticed, and you are not used to flattering your boss to make your way up.
Understand that you are obstructing your growth by delving on these reasons. With a little amount of thought and  analysis, you find a solution for these kind of issues. If you think that growth is impossible under your manager, either bring it to the notice of the top management or plan to move on to another company. Likewise, it would be foolish to blame your company for not encouraging hard working employees. Before you blame your company and its policies, you must carefully analyse your skills, abilities, and performances with other employees who are getting promoted.
More often your performance may not be on par with your skills. Discussing with your boss and human resource personnel will give you a better picture of your situation. It's always better talk to people and sort out issues rather than grumbling.
Find the reason that are obstructing your growth and tackle them effectively to progress in your career. 

INTERPERSONAL AWARENESS

*To constantly win the commitment of men and women you want to influence you must get into their worlds by accepting personality patterns, de-emphasising your own ego needs, and offering rewards that are contingent upon their cooperating with you. The people with whom you want to share the winning must be met on their own terms, for they will help you what you want from life only when you help them meet their needs keep their trust.
    *You must keep people remain in their comfort zones as you work from an accepting attitude that conveys the message that you are both worthwhile individuals in the relationship. When negotiating, you have to remain true to your own pattern as well as accepting the pattern of others.It is crucial that you remain comfortabe, because you will send confusing, which are troubling, if you try something which you are not. Your verbal and nonverbal communications will clash, and virtually everyone is disturbed by a person who sends messages that do not support each other. That is like facing a strange dog that is both barking and wagging its tail at the same time. You wonder which message to believe.
    *An attempt to do something you are not comfortable being creates abnormal responses to you. In that case you'll probably make evaluate and make judgment of people who are not acting like they normally do, but who are reacting to your abnormal behavior. This is why many people have conflicts that they cannot understand when they are comfortable once more.
      *Let someone become comfortable with you while rapport being established. Second, you can work to let other people remain in their comfort zones without demanding that they conform to your conscious expectations.
       *First impressions are crucial, and most people form them according to patterns with very little information about the trustworthiness, commitment, or expertise of the person being judged. They are formed almost instinctively.
       *When someone accepts you as a comfortable person to be with, you can stop thinking about patterns and relating and get on with the issues at hand. By that time he has accepted you and is no longer forming initial impressions based on style rather than on substance.
          

THE USES OF LANGUAGE (1)

It is indeed not the least of the logician's tasks to indicate the pitfalls laid by language in the way of the thinker.
                                                                                                --Gottlob Frego
*Language is so subtle and complicated an instrument that we often lose sight of the multiplicity of its uses. A not  uncommon complaint of those who take too narrow a view of the legitimate uses of language concerns the  way in which words are "wasted" at social functi

ttle said!" sums up this kind of criticism.
*People do not talk at parties to instruct each other. An ordinary, "How are you?" is a friendly greeting, not a request for a medical report. Only a bore would tell about the state of his health at great length and in much detail.


*The communicating of ideas is not the chief and only end of language, as is commonly supposed. There are other ends, as the rising of some passion, the exciting to or deterring from an action, the putting the mind in some particular disposition etc.


*Language used to affirm or deny propositions, or to present arguments, is said to be serving the informative function. In this context we use the word "information" to include misinformation; false as well as true propositions, incorrect as well as correct arguments. Informative discourse is used to describe the world, and to reason about it. Whether the alleged facts are important or unimportant, general or particular, does not matter: in any case the language used to describe or report them is being used informatively.

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Guidelines & Responsibilities at DPS Realtors Private Limited, Nagercoil


We at the DPS Realtors have been guided to keep in mind that a house does not mean just an ordinary shelter where people put their feet up. It is a sign of achievement and a monument that celebrates hard work and success. It is something people cherish throughout their lives. We as builders understand that any building,  be it an ordinary Single Story Bungalow or a Multistory structure, it should always reflect the underlying character of the one who builds it. DPS Realtors has always constructed their buildings conspicuously above the ordinary. Excellence has always being the guiding light that has led to success so far in all the endeavors we have set out to accomplish.


The Goals and Targets in the coming years


The New year has opened up new vistas for the company. It is spreading it's wings beyond the  border of Southern Tamil Nadu and has reached out to Chennai where with the collaboration of ECOPOLIS SUJATHA, we have started building apartments on the out skirts of Chennai. We hope to have more exciting projects to follow in the coming days and- you folks- watch this space for more.  

LOVE

When Two People Are Under The Influence Of The Most Violent , Most Insane, Most Delusive and Most Transient of Passions, They Are Required To Swear That They Will Remain In That Excited, Abnormal And Exausting Condition Continuously Until Death Do Them "Part".


  George Bernard Shaw.

JACK CAN'T SEE

There is something Jack can't see.
He knows there is something he can't see,
but he doesn't know what it is that he can't see,
But Jack can see Jill can see
That Jack can't see something.

Jack doesn't know
What he doesn't know
but he thinks
Jill knows whatever the something is which he doesn't know.


                                                KNOTS

FAIL TO NOTICE

The range of what we think and do
Is limited by what we fail to notice
And because we fail to notice
That we fail to notice.
There is little we can do
To change
Until we notice
How failing to notice
Shapes our thoughts and deeds.

ART OF LISTENING

Stop talking . You cannot listen if you are talking.Put the talker at ease.Remove distractions. See the situation from the other persons point of view.
Be patient. Go easy with argument and criticism. When you argue, even if you win, you lose. Ask questions to show interest and encourage response.
Listening requires two ears, one for meaning and one for feeling. Decision makers who do not listen have less information for making sound decsions.
Words are swords we use in our battle for success and happiness. How others react towords us depends in a large measure upon the words we speak to them. Life is a great whispering gallary that sends back echos of the words we send out. Our words are immortal too. They go marching through the years in the lives of all those with whom we come into contact.

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REAL ESTATE

The best investment on earth is earth. ( Louis Glickman )

Real Estate is the closest thing to the proverbial pot of gold. (Ada L. Huxtable )

The instinct of ownership is fundamental in man's nature. ( William James )

Before the cherry orchard was sold everybody was worried and upset, but as soon as it was all settled finally and once for all, everybody calmed down, and felt quite cheerful.             ( Anton Chekhov )

PERSONALITY

We were born individuals, and this individuality came, as we grew, to express itself  in selfhood.Indeed some men seem scarcely able to attain personality, like those who, Dante says, lived and never were alive. Starting from the basis of individuality and selfhood, personality is a growth, and even so, not an automatic growth. It is an attainment. 
God made children and they cannot sit still. They were meant to move, to be active, for so they must grow and learn. If they did not they would never be even teachable. This activity, of course, will not be undirected. The child does not consciously direct it, but just as each animal develops according to its species, and is modified more or less by its surroundings, so will it be with the activities of the growing child. These factors we must accept and make the best use of. What is no less important and inevitable is the tendency to seek conscious ends or ideals definitely. IT IS OUR IDEALS MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE THAT MAKE OUR PERSONALITY.

SELF

The greatest factor in making selfhood is other selves. Without them we could hardly be ourselves. Each self develops by imitation of others, and exchange of thought with them. We have but to realize how many of our thoughts are coloured by our times. we are what we are because of what we have got from them.

10 Tips For Wives.

1. Do you give your husband complete freedom in his business affairs, and do you refrain from criticing his Associates, his choice of a secretary, or the hours he keeps ?
2. Do you try your best to make your home interesting and attractive ?
3. Do you vary the household menu so that he never quite knows what to expect when he sits down to the table ?
4. Do you have an intelligent grasp of your husband's business so you can discuss it with him helpfully ?
5. Can you meet financial reverses bravely, cheerfully, without criticizing your husband for his mistakes or comparing him unfavourably with more successful men ?
6. Do you make special effort to get along amiably with his mother or relatives ?
7. Do you dress with an eye for your husband's likes and dislikes in color and style ?
8. Do you compromise little differences of opinion in the interest of harmony ?
9. Do you make an effort to learn games your husband likes, so you can share his leisure hours ?
10. Do you keep track of the day's news, the new books, and new ideas, so you can hold your husband's intellectual interests ?

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10 Tips For Husbands

1. Do you still "court" your wife with an occasional gift of flowers, with remembrances of her birthday and wedding anniversary, or with some unexpected attention, some, unlooked-for tenderness ?
2. Are you careful never to criticize her before others ?
3. Do you give her money to spend entirely as she chooses, above the household expenses ?
4. Do you make an effort to understand her varying feminine moods and help her through periods of fatigue, nerves and irritability ?
5. Do you share, at least half of your recreation hours with your wife ?
6. Do you tactfully refrain from comparing your wife's cooking or housekeeping with that of your mother or of somebody else's wife, except to her advantage ?
7. Do you take a definite interest in her intellectual life, her clubs and societies, the books she reads, her views on civic problems ?
8. Can you let her dance with and receive friendly attentions from other men without making jealouse remarks ?
9. Do you keep alert for opportunites to praise her and express your admiration for her ?
10. Do you thank her for the little jobs she does for you, such as sewing on a button, darning your socks, and sending your clothes to the cleaners ?