*To constantly win the commitment of men and women you want to influence you must get into their worlds by accepting personality patterns, de-emphasising your own ego needs, and offering rewards that are contingent upon their cooperating with you. The people with whom you want to share the winning must be met on their own terms, for they will help you what you want from life only when you help them meet their needs keep their trust.
*You must keep people remain in their comfort zones as you work from an accepting attitude that conveys the message that you are both worthwhile individuals in the relationship. When negotiating, you have to remain true to your own pattern as well as accepting the pattern of others.It is crucial that you remain comfortabe, because you will send confusing, which are troubling, if you try something which you are not. Your verbal and nonverbal communications will clash, and virtually everyone is disturbed by a person who sends messages that do not support each other. That is like facing a strange dog that is both barking and wagging its tail at the same time. You wonder which message to believe.
*An attempt to do something you are not comfortable being creates abnormal responses to you. In that case you'll probably make evaluate and make judgment of people who are not acting like they normally do, but who are reacting to your abnormal behavior. This is why many people have conflicts that they cannot understand when they are comfortable once more.
*Let someone become comfortable with you while rapport being established. Second, you can work to let other people remain in their comfort zones without demanding that they conform to your conscious expectations.
*First impressions are crucial, and most people form them according to patterns with very little information about the trustworthiness, commitment, or expertise of the person being judged. They are formed almost instinctively.
*When someone accepts you as a comfortable person to be with, you can stop thinking about patterns and relating and get on with the issues at hand. By that time he has accepted you and is no longer forming initial impressions based on style rather than on substance.
*You must keep people remain in their comfort zones as you work from an accepting attitude that conveys the message that you are both worthwhile individuals in the relationship. When negotiating, you have to remain true to your own pattern as well as accepting the pattern of others.It is crucial that you remain comfortabe, because you will send confusing, which are troubling, if you try something which you are not. Your verbal and nonverbal communications will clash, and virtually everyone is disturbed by a person who sends messages that do not support each other. That is like facing a strange dog that is both barking and wagging its tail at the same time. You wonder which message to believe.
*An attempt to do something you are not comfortable being creates abnormal responses to you. In that case you'll probably make evaluate and make judgment of people who are not acting like they normally do, but who are reacting to your abnormal behavior. This is why many people have conflicts that they cannot understand when they are comfortable once more.
*Let someone become comfortable with you while rapport being established. Second, you can work to let other people remain in their comfort zones without demanding that they conform to your conscious expectations.
*First impressions are crucial, and most people form them according to patterns with very little information about the trustworthiness, commitment, or expertise of the person being judged. They are formed almost instinctively.
*When someone accepts you as a comfortable person to be with, you can stop thinking about patterns and relating and get on with the issues at hand. By that time he has accepted you and is no longer forming initial impressions based on style rather than on substance.
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