POSITIVE ELECTRODE

Expecting to become a winner isn't the result of having family power or money so much as
having the imagination and intelligence to recognize one's ability to change life for the better.
Being born poor simply forces a persion to function in a different manner if he plans on
becoming a winner. Jeno Pauluchi was a poor son of immigrant parents who grew up on the
Iron Range of Minnosota. But he realized that LIFE WAS HIS to SHAPE, so he borrowed a few
hundred dollars to form the ChunKing Chinese food company. He sold ChunKing some years
later for many millions of dollars.
Each person can be said to have a Positive or Negative ELECTRODE in his life, according to
Berne. A negative electrode draws failure and disappointment like an old fasioned lightening
rod attracts electricity from the sky. A negative electrode draws failure and unhappiness,
because they are incompatible with one's expectations. It brings distructive friends, self-deva
luation, unplanned pregnancies, ill health and early death. A man or a woman with a negative
electrode feels that he is jinxed by bad luck, when he is actually bringing most of it on himself
by his life style. It is part of his self-fulfilling game plan,which was formed when he was a confused, two or three year old child.
On the other hand, a positive electrode attracts good preperation, thoughtfull decisions, supp
ortive friends and bold ventures. Winning events when they occur, have been carefully planned
for and fully expected.
I don't want to give the impression that winning or losing in life is connected to the amount
of money you earn, for that is not the case. The crucial aspect is the realization that you can shape life as you want it to become, rathen than being acted upon by forces and people beyond
your control.

TAO

Woman is the generous and welcoming valley of soft mountains where man willingly comes
from the hardness of the world to be overcome.
She is warm promise and tenderness of full earth and moon to which even the wisdom of heaven
is left speechless.
She is the presence of primal beginning from which man arises.
Birth and life struggle him away but desire and death enchant him back.
A man's death in woman is his birth again. She is confirmation of the small and which rhymes of
blood and generations to which he keeeps returning for comfort and release.

THE LAW OF RECIPROCITY

When men and women meet,they invariably go through a series of unspoken and often
unconscious transactions that are a survival tactic from our primitive past.
Men and women take their cues from each other because life is filled with spoken and unspoken
trade offs that people require of each other. If we offer friendship , it is normally returned.
If we are critical and harsh ,they protect themselves in much the same manner.
THE WAY YOU WANT PEOPLE TO ACT TOWARDS YOU IS THE WAY YOU MUST FIRST TREAT THEM.
(The next time you walk down a crowded sidewalk, smile at the people you meet. Almost everyone will return your greeting with a smile of his or her own, and many may wish you
a good day as well.
But if you frown and stare at the on coming people, be prepared to get out of their way. They
may glare,swear aloud, clench their fist, stare back at you and generally become hostile )

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When answering questions, speak concisely, but don't leave out essential informations.

Avoid monosyllabic replies, hard luck stories, tragedies,apologies and recitals of illnesses.

Don't leave negatives arround for the interviewer to remember you by.

Know when to leave. Pace yourself. Think ahead.Don't let the conversation lose its way or

die. Recognize the peak moment of the interview and be ready to concludesoon after.

When you have said all you have to say, stand, smile, give the interviewer your hand,

thank him,and Go ....leaving a positive image behind.

Dorathy Sarnoff

INTERVIEWS

A few days ago I happened to watch my friend Moshi Dayan give a wonderful lecture on 'how to

attend interviews' to a bunch of girl students who are on the brink of turning themselves

into budding professionals.I came across some more material and I would like to share with you guys......

First, Are you pleasing to the eye? Will the image you present help you OR stand in your way

when you are interviewed for a job?

Next, Are you pleasing to the nose?

Go to your interview smelling like a country breeze on a new born spring day. Make use of

your deoderent and mouthwash in your medicine cabinet.

Avoid onions,alcohol and garlic at the meal. If you use perfume,make it light.

Never be late. Come early to adjust yourself to the office atmosphere. Tell yourself- 'I'm confident,composed,compelling and convincing and also positive,persuasive,powerful etc.

Use the smile that shows in the eyes and let your handshake be as natural as your smile.

Be sensitive to the impression you are making. Avoid tentativeness or indecisiveness, but

watch and be guided by the interviewers reaction to what you say and how you say it.

Don't be so dynamic that your interviewer feels overpowered. Remember the image he wants,

and stay within that framework.

Be serious; be earnest; but show that if you do get the job you will be not just efficient but

a pleasant person to have around. Listen thoughtfully.Pay attention. Ask pertinant questions of your ownbut in a non provocative manner.

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